Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Tested and Confirmed: 7 Steps to RICHES


For the first time in a very long time, I get to blog. Feels SOOO good to the back.

Just in case u wondering were I've been.........
here's a catch up ......

I've been doing it.....moving around trying to make meaning of my life I did it, too. I walked by big houses and wondered who lived there. What did they do for a living? How did they make their money? Someday, I told myself, I would live in a house better than that.

I read books about successful people. In fact, I read every book or magazine I could get my hands on (Plus a lot of them, from ). I told myself one good idea would pay for the book and could make the difference between me making it or not.

But here's one fact i find TOO factual not to challenge.

These stories are great to read about and sometimes they even inspire us.

But are they always true?

Many of us think that if we could only get our hands on the right 10 steps, we can be successful too. We believe that there is this linear process where we can read a book, and if followed, it will lead
to riches. This is why there are so many books out there with numbers in their titles like:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

48 Laws of Power

The 17 Essential Qualities Of A Team Player

The 17 Indisputable LawsOf Teamwork

One that got my attention, The Business Laws: The 7 Irrefutable Laws That Determine All Business Success by David Eichenbaum.

How can he be so sure?

Infact how can they all be so Sure?

There are not 7 nor 777777 steps to success.

It is different for everyone. We can all get at financial success if that is our goal, but there isn’t one single path that will work for all of us.

They make it sound so Mathematical. Take for instance "The 7 Habits of highly effective people" is that suppose to be a Universal Personal development law. Commoooooon, in Nigeria alone, in Ikorodu where I stay to be specific you probably at Least 7 top survive the daily trafic, another 7 for Commodity bargaining, another 7 to keep you from being frustrated and the list is endless.

So without the 7 steps where do we begin our journey?

Well, the first thing we need to do is stop letting our egos brag about our successes and Honor Our Failures instead.

Yes...thats what I do. Tell people how I Painfully and regretably failed keeping my job at R.B.A (technically).

Failure is valuable only when we realize it is a normal part of the business and Success process, even when there isn’t always something to learn. So it does not hold us back.

The real fear and pressure in this whole process is not brought on by our competitors or other outside people. It mostly originates within us. The biggest fear we have is that someone in our position would have done better than us, made better decisions, and would have built it faster and
more profitably than we did. We believe that we should be in a different place than where we are right now, and that we would be if only we had made better decisions.



Errant Nonsense (as a gr8 teacher and former Boss of mine used to say).

In order to move forward in our business life—past the fear, past the failure, and yes, past the success—we actually need to just let go. Letting go is the key to gaining true business confidence—
not by holding onto what people have taught you are the keys to success, not by looking for the 7 steps. You need to let go of the idea that there is always something to learn from failure or that you can always build and duplicate your success.

To be Continued...........

Friday, September 25, 2009

Decision Making


A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in
use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused
track, the rest on the operational track.

The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange.
You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make.................

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Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and
sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess.
Exactly, to save most of the children at the expense of only one child
was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.
But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the
disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends
who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens
around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and
especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed
for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant
the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority
are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational
track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would
shed a tear for him.

The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story said he would
not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the
kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that
track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they
heard the train's sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child
would definitely die because he never thought the train could come
over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably
because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we
could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your
attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up
sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids.

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need
to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always
be the right one.

'Remember that what's right isn't always popular... and what's popular
isn't always right.'

Everybody makes mistakes.

Please your reaction is needed.