For the first time in a very long time, I get to blog. Feels SOOO good to the back.
Just in case u wondering were I've been.........
here's a catch up ......
I've been doing it.....moving around trying to make meaning of my life I did it, too. I walked by big houses and wondered who lived there. What did they do for a living? How did they make their money? Someday, I told myself, I would live in a house better than that.
I read books about successful people. In fact, I read every book or magazine I could get my hands on (Plus a lot of them, from www.changethis.com ). I told myself one good idea would pay for the book and could make the difference between me making it or not.
But here's one fact i find TOO factual not to challenge.
These stories are great to read about and sometimes they even inspire us.
But are they always true?
Many of us think that if we could only get our hands on the right 10 steps, we can be successful too. We believe that there is this linear process where we can read a book, and if followed, it will lead
to riches. This is why there are so many books out there with numbers in their titles like:
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra
48 Laws of Power
The 17 Essential Qualities Of A Team Player
The 17 Indisputable LawsOf Teamwork
One that got my attention, The Business Laws: The 7 Irrefutable Laws That Determine All Business Success by David Eichenbaum.
How can he be so sure?
Infact how can they all be so Sure?
There are not 7 nor 777777 steps to success.
It is different for everyone. We can all get at financial success if that is our goal, but there isn’t one single path that will work for all of us.
They make it sound so Mathematical. Take for instance "The 7 Habits of highly effective people" is that suppose to be a Universal Personal development law. Commoooooon, in Nigeria alone, in Ikorodu where I stay to be specific you probably at Least 7 top survive the daily trafic, another 7 for Commodity bargaining, another 7 to keep you from being frustrated and the list is endless.
So without the 7 steps where do we begin our journey?
Well, the first thing we need to do is stop letting our egos brag about our successes and Honor Our Failures instead.
Yes...thats what I do. Tell people how I Painfully and regretably failed keeping my job at R.B.A (technically).
Failure is valuable only when we realize it is a normal part of the business and Success process, even when there isn’t always something to learn. So it does not hold us back.
The real fear and pressure in this whole process is not brought on by our competitors or other outside people. It mostly originates within us. The biggest fear we have is that someone in our position would have done better than us, made better decisions, and would have built it faster and
more profitably than we did. We believe that we should be in a different place than where we are right now, and that we would be if only we had made better decisions.
Errant Nonsense (as a gr8 teacher and former Boss of mine used to say).
In order to move forward in our business life—past the fear, past the failure, and yes, past the success—we actually need to just let go. Letting go is the key to gaining true business confidence—
not by holding onto what people have taught you are the keys to success, not by looking for the 7 steps. You need to let go of the idea that there is always something to learn from failure or that you can always build and duplicate your success.
To be Continued...........
Its so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.
But 20 children cannot play for 20twenty years they say.
The Gospel truth be told,
if you folks think its all over, if you think that after convocation rice and all those light flashing devices we pointed at each other to capture images and the nearer to fake than original smiles and compliments we shared that I Ibrahim Adekunle Durosimi (a Nigeria Minister and U.N Ambassador would be) would just let you go like that. The Bad News THINK AGAIN.
Cos am stuck to you like good memories, cos that what you all bring to me Good memories.
Where should i start from, all those test and exams we wrote together plus all the dolling Voltrons we formed that never had a Red Lion, the MAT 303 and 304 we took and passed but barely understood, the MAT 308 and 208 we still till today doubt if the scripts were marked, the love shared in common for Prof. Adepoju, the unified opinion about Dr. Ajala and Dr Hansel, the Record we shared as the Set with the Highest number of graduating 1st Class and grad students, as the set that never did a Dinner Party because of lack of trust, the record setting Tour we went on, the clicks we formed, jaja sona diploma makama inexcess amongst other questionable clicks, the trophies we won from playing football, the classes we attended together the lectures we stabbed together the pranks we all played together..................
Really if i had a chance to do it all over again, I wouldn't hesitate to choose you guys again. Each and everyone of you. You are unique in your style, different in your being, outstanding in your performance, blessed in your personality, admirable in your qualities, encouraging in your approach and lovely in your looks.
It is with a heart half filled with tears of joy and a heart half empty with regrets that I, with a mix emotions of love and anger punch at my keyboard to say all this.Partly because all along when I was around you, i never really appreciated you all enough (Never miss your water till the Well runs Dry) (Never miss what you've got till its gone). And partly because there is more to you all that I still don't understand.
truth be told I will miss you all, but I beg of you, i know and we know some of you are well connected like a promiscuous NITEL Cable and some of you go are everywhere like home video posters, gathering information like a CNN reporter who needs to be promoted, anything you come across and are sure would benefit us all in our professional and personal aspirations PLEASE this is not the Exam all share it with us, there are no invigilators to arrest you, Write it on the wall of this group.
Lets for the First time in a Long time Form a Voltrorn that would work.
I have missed, I am missing and I will continue to Miss You All
Fatima Samuel Bambo Nma Bisola Onome John White Somefun Franklin SegunOshikoya Smith Pacheco Adedigba Bash Gboye and You ALL in Particular.
Lots of Love.
Can we all have a joint Val Celebration together somewhere affordable and romantic together?